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Relationship building 2/29/2024
Relationship are a 24 / 7 job. I sometime
wonder if it's worth the effort or if settling for the
occasionally hoop up is the way to go....
8 Comments,
190 Views,
116 Votes
,0.77 Score
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Finding True Self By Being Humbled 12/27/2023
We all agree, it seems, that D/s relationships are tricky
affairs which most folks aren't very adept at. The
control freak is too often abusive rather than an instructive
dominant and the bratty sub is an attention rather
than a yielding submissive. Why is this so and what to do?
<br><br>
Humiliation is not a fetish but a pathway to discovering
reality-based selfhood of the ...
8 Comments,
187 Views,
82 Votes
,1.89 Score
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Intimacy of a Dom and his slave 12/27/2023
Forever and ever I have required the heat and passion of
a slave. <br><br>
I need her heart more than I want her body or servitude. <br><br>
The act of deep kissing is my form of TPE as she gives herself
completely and the connection is perfect with no pretense
or costume. To lie upon her breasts and listen to her breathe.
To press my ear into her as to hear her heart ...
6 Comments,
125 Views,
72 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Relationship 8/8/2023
Relationship can only happen where there is free interaction
between people.
1 Comments,
46 Views,
30 Votes
,1.77 Score
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My sex session with a stranger woman. 8/2/2023
It was a evening. I went to park. Cool breeze was breezing
and gave more oxygen and mood changed. Mood for lovely evening
with good food came., I needed a woman for me to have dinner.
I searched and searched on corners of the park. But no one
attracted my attention. Then I went to a nearby bar with food. I sat in a corner. A lady
came and asked me what I want. She tole me She is also hungry
and ...
5 Comments,
60 Views,
26 Votes
,3.56 Score
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How do you know how to trust on alt 7/29/2023
Their are so many fake people on here how do you know who to
trust. Looking for help.
3 Comments,
19 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Would you be in to a Trophy Stepford or made in to one in to Submission? 6/8/2023
I know I am a Natural Stepford with the push up bra's
and tight corset's but some what to go to the extreme.
Being a kept Women for a man she cater to him out of her submission.
She must submit to him fully in contract. Willing to be forced
in to refinement and pleasure and marriage in contract.
To cater and be under him as he guides and protects you must
wear what he requires heels are ...
22 Comments,
220 Views,
41 Votes
,7.39 Score
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Good three in the morning, evening and late night 4/7/2023
Good in the morning, evening and late night
4 Comments,
91 Views,
64 Votes
,1.69 Score
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Covid 4/7/2023
Why are there so many covid posts here?
1 Comments,
67 Views,
55 Votes
,1.12 Score
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Central Astronauts Training Education Masochist feetslave 4/7/2023
article is in preperation
1 Comments,
84 Views,
75 Votes
,1.55 Score
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The most dangerous enemies of humans 4/5/2023
Hello everyone who read my blog and I wish the good and happiness
to the people of the world and I hope that it is fine and good
health and the recovery of all disease. We benefit from
it or a useful experiment that benefits conclusions from
the Coronavirus or (COVID-19) is present in areas that
witness a widespread and continuous spread, for example
cold areas like Europe and America, the ...
3 Comments,
83 Views,
60 Votes
,0.69 Score
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Greetings to doctors and nurses in the world who are victims of humanity 4/5/2023
The diary of the Corona Virus. I wish everyone a recovery,
and that everything is okay with everyone and be in health,
happiness, and salutation to the doctors and nurses in
the world who are victims for humanity and death for
humanity. From the due appeal, I understand many thanks,
gratitude and gratitude. The most loyal loyal soldiers
of the homeland are lost because they are in battle with
an ...
2 Comments,
92 Views,
71 Votes
,1.47 Score
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O Lord, the joy and smile prevail over all the peoples of the world 4/5/2023
Welcome to the next chapter of my blog The Most Dangerous
Enemies of People We Benefit From Or There is a useful experience
that informs conclusions about the most dangerous human
disease Hovoved Corona virus emerging What you should
know about the emerging corona virus disease as a benefit
The corona virus emerging affects people all over the world,
including Many as the virus continues to ...
1 Comments,
74 Views,
61 Votes
,0.84 Score
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Corona's time 4/5/2023
Hello, I hope that everyone will be fine, healthy and happy.
We previously talked about the most dangerous disease,
which is the Corona virus or Covid-19. There are some conclusions,
such as this disease that will leave an impact with humanity.
Some people began live with this disease as if the disease
did not exist, and it may be the most dangerous stage or vice
versa. A puzzling question. It ...
2 Comments,
123 Views,
89 Votes
,1.43 Score
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Happy year is ready for the new year 2/14/2023
be ready in the year. I hope that you will get everything
you need and forward awakening your deep, dark,
suppressed and enjoyable fantasies in the year and
happy birthday all.
6 Comments,
63 Views,
46 Votes
,1.01 Score
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How Control and Surrender are Different 9/11/2022
External control is when my partner delegates to me, the
privilege of exercising authority on her behalf. That
includes authority over her, and making decisions on her
behalf, to the extent and degree permitted both in advance
and in the moment.
Internal control is of myself, my thoughts, my actions
and reactions, the balance and emotion of my feelings.
It is the observation and ...
3 Comments,
138 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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Is it worth it? 9/11/2022
Wearing this chastity cage between my legs. Waking up early
in the morning as I get a painful woody telling me I need to
go to the bathroom. Living my life now as a chaste husband.
There are times I ask myself is this all worth it.
Then I look at my wife. My beautiful and gorgeous wife. Then,
like last night, I see her in bed with someone other than
me. I watch another man pound his cock ...
6 Comments,
84 Views,
13 Votes
,4.99 Score
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Tribal Education; TPE (Total Power Exchange) 24/7 9/11/2022
[post 174] 24/7 TPE Dynamics <br><br>
Friday, October 30, 20 Tribe Education Gridlox TPE Total Power Exchange <br><br>
TPE or Total Power Exchange is an arrangement between two
or more individuals, in which an agreement is made of
bonding, trust, complete understanding of all parties
expectations, desires, boundaries, needs and limitations.
Based on these ...
3 Comments,
31 Views,
19 Votes
,2.46 Score
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God, joy and smile prevail over all the people of the world 11/28/2021
Good evening to friends. I hope for everyone to be well and
well. Complement a topic. I love adding some things. We
talked about the most serious disease that afflicted mankind
and the paralysis of the economic movement in the world
days. Life comes back from another. But we have to be careful.
I talked about some sixty products that the virus with
weather A lemon sunlight Most herbs. Drinks, ...
0 Comments,
64 Views,
55 Votes
,0.99 Score
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How to contact you 5/1/2021
Hello, <br><br>
Thanks for reading. If you are of points, how are you
contacting people here? I am using malepuppylips on k.i.k.
<br><br>
I enjoy breast , rope , anal, spanking, role ,
taboo, /, Mother/, Doctor/patient,
etc., collar and leash, caging, pet , nipple stretching,
anal stretching, anal plugs, bondage, hot wax, etc...
<br><br> ...
1 Comments,
63 Views,
37 Votes
,1.04 Score
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Bus Journey. 7/19/2020
Travelling is a hobby for many and compulsion for most of
us. We have to travel long distances and when in urgency without
reserved tickets in train BUS JOURNEY becomes best option.
On such an occasion I had to travel and I boarded the bus.
There were two seats on remote back corner. Relunctantly
i sat there . After an hour on next stop of bus a young lady
of 30 around entered in bus and she had ...
1 Comments,
48 Views,
28 Votes
,2.83 Score
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New Friends and Fun! 6/11/2020
I joined this website for fun yet didn't know what to
expect. My goal was to find people for real-life play. I
am lucky to have been contacted by people who are sincere
in their desires.
Regarding the world outside of the website, I am amazed
at how quickly time spent playing in this lifestyle turns
into friendships. I feel like I have so much in common with
people whom I've met. I ...
2 Comments,
248 Views,
17 Votes
,3.83 Score
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Long Distance Relationship 6/11/2020
Has anyone travelled to meet someone from this website?
How far? Was it worth your effort? How far would you be willing
to travel?
9 Comments,
117 Views,
18 Votes
,5.72 Score
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Long Distance Relationship 6/11/2020
I have a long distance relationship. He is in a place where
he can receive photos but no nudity. I have great sexy clothes
and costumes. I need suggestions for photos. What would
create a really hot photo? What are your favorite poses
and scenery? What visual images turn you on?
4 Comments,
69 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Can anybody answer?. 3/15/2020
Two ladies were sleeping on same bed. They were hugging each other and kissing each other at times
while gossipping. Their intentions were now known. they just talked and kissed and hugged tight. Why they were doing so?.
2 Comments,
36 Views,
16 Votes
,2.54 Score
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How to contact you 1/25/2020
Hello, <br><br>
Thanks for reading. If you are of points, how are you
contacting people here? I am using malepuppylips on k.i.k.
<br><br>
I enjoy breast , rope , anal, spanking, role ,
taboo, /, Mother/, Doctor/patient,
etc., collar and leash, caging, pet , nipple stretching,
anal stretching, anal plugs, bondage, hot wax, etc...
<br><br> ...
1 Comments,
53 Views,
28 Votes
,2.01 Score
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insatiable always 12/10/2019
testimonials available
3 Comments,
25 Views,
14 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Beaches. 12/10/2019
It is astonishing to find out that all grown up boys and girls
show fascination for to visit beaches and to further their
love interest. On one such story, a boy meets a girl and both exchanges smiles
and share sun tanning sleeping close to each other. The
curves of girls attracts the attention of the grown up boy
and he immediately request for a friendship. The girl was
also good cake and she ...
1 Comments,
34 Views,
18 Votes
,2.72 Score
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whores 12/10/2019
looking for a dirty whores that are into taboo its sometimes
hard to find them but when you do find them they are into everything
and want to try new things witch every woman like to see there
limit
3 Comments,
34 Views,
17 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Spanking is needed in every relationship 12/3/2019
I feel that to buld a good relationship must have good communication
an trust an have a good sense of humor.i have always felt
that there should always be spanking in a lasting loving
relationship
31 Comments,
218 Views,
59 Votes
,5.37 Score
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Finding the right Dom 10/28/2019
I'm finding it extremely difficult in finding a dom
who fits in with my lifestyle. I love being dominated during
play time but outside of that I require someone who is able
to treat me equally. I need a dom who respects my profession
and who is able to love me as well as dominate me. My last master
fell in love with me then was no longer able to dominate me
it was beyond frustrating. Is finding ...
9 Comments,
453 Views,
27 Votes
,5.98 Score
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How long has it taken you to be comfortable with your Dom as the submissive? Females... 10/2/2019
Establishing a D/s relationship takes time to build up
trust, chemistry and the ability for a sub to let go. How
long has it taken you to get there?
5 Comments,
50 Views,
14 Votes
,3.62 Score
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Chinese slaves 7/12/2019
I want to tell you about a young slut I met in Shanghai.
First time I met her she was 17 years old. She was tiny with
small tits and a nice mouthwatering body. I met her in the
street where she approached me and tried to sell her services.
I turned her down and told her that she should join me for
her own good and to learn how to behave. She reluctantly
accepted and she joined me to my place. Of ...
1 Comments,
39 Views,
7 Votes
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Chinese slaves 7/12/2019
I want to tell you about a young slut I met in Shanghai.
First time I met her she was 17 years old. She was tiny with
small tits and a nice mouthwatering body. I met her in the
street where she approached me and tried to sell her services.
I turned her down and told her that she should join me for
her own good and to learn how to behave. She reluctantly
accepted and she joined me to my place. Of ...
3 Comments,
87 Views,
13 Votes
,1.80 Score
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Chinese slaves 7/12/2019
I want to tell you about a young slut I met in Shanghai.
First time I met her she was 17 years old. She was tiny with
small tits and a nice mouthwatering body. I met her in the
street where she approached me and tried to sell her services.
I turned her down and told her that she should join me for
her own good and to learn how to behave. She reluctantly
accepted and she joined me to my place. Of ...
2 Comments,
57 Views,
9 Votes
,1.72 Score
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A day in the life of a 24/7 slave 7/12/2019
It is rarely the big events that make a relationship, it
is a million small touches, a million small submissions,
a constantly evovling gift between two people that for
me looks like this.
i am often asked by friends, both lifestyle and vanilla,
what being a slave means, or what it looks like in the day
to day. So here it is.
5:45 am...yes way before the sun comes up my day ...
9 Comments,
576 Views,
24 Votes
,5.86 Score
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Married & D/s 7/12/2019
Reading many clips on
lifestyle relationships during my journey, it never came
across O/our thoughts that it would have a negative impact
on the relationship. Majority of the posting based marriage
& D/s together as negative. In that it would have a negative
affect or effect on the relationship. Feelings of such
would hinder O/ones role and performance.
...
5 Comments,
126 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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Online Relationships 7/12/2019
Do online relationship really progress to reality?
In all the years I have been online seeking a partner in BDSM
and D.s play I have yet to have longivity from being online.
Of course, I have to say that I have met many good men and women,
but no man has captured my time and attention enough for
me to even remotely want to take it to the next level.
Do you think its because once ...
4 Comments,
218 Views,
8 Votes
,3.48 Score
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new to this 7/12/2019
hi i am francesca i am 25 yrs old my fella is 21 , hes very intrested
in a 3sum or 4sum altho no full swap being a nice gf and intrested
in this anyway i said sure lets join up here and see how it
goes so here is my 1st article and i will post more as it progresses
salisburycpl2...
6 Comments,
117 Views,
9 Votes
,1.72 Score
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Early Stages of Online Relationships 7/12/2019
Something catches your eye about their post... You may
like something they said, perhaps the site has told you
he was the match for you, or maybe the smile said this is a
genuine person, I want to get to know... <br><br>
What is online is often so far from the real person that you
can’t begin to imagine, later, when you look back, what
was the connection in the first place... One ...
13 Comments,
152 Views,
33 Votes
,4.89 Score
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minus three extremities.. 7/12/2019
everything but intercourse or giving, the session
is $80 a limited time Nicholasville, Kentucky. See my <br><br>
website www.commodityadult.com <br><br>
And more freevideos www.commodityadult.com model/candyCastle <br><br>
And live now free on webcam www.commodityadult.com blog/WineForCandy <br><br>
Passionate. I enjoy foreplay, passion, slow, ...
1 Comments,
7 Views,
3 Votes
,1.96 Score
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Who does what even in Femdom 7/2/2019
It appears that in many cases it is up to the man to begin the
communication and continue building the relationship
from that start. That is, being the aggressor at the beginning
of the relationship. Even in a female lead relationship.
2 Comments,
86 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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Subs Are Born Not Made 5/28/2019
I very fortunate in having vast and varied experience
at sharing the D/s experience with female subs who are truly
authentic in their sexual submissiveness. Authentic
subs are submissive at their core. They don’t to
be trained to be a sub. It is as natural as breathing to them.
They already know and feel it inside. The authentic sub
simply needs to be brought to and express her natural and ...
4 Comments,
58 Views,
17 Votes
,2.42 Score
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You Should Not Give Away That Which You Value! 5/24/2019
I am very curious as to the reasoning for a Dom who insists
on sharing his sub with his friends or/and animals. Why?
When a submissive gives their all to a Dom/Master it is one
very big deal! To trust another with your heart is giving
a lot but to trust another with your physical safety, to
let them have the power to advise you, to punish you and to
use you at their will is an incredible ...
1 Comments,
184 Views,
166 Votes
,9.14 Score
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Hard to find a mate 5/19/2019
I know this might sound like whinning, but is it getting
harder to find someone that is compatible with you, specially
if they are not in the same area?
<br>
It seems that we want relationships but aren't willing
to make sacrafices (relocation, change in status, etc.).
Maybe I am wrong but what is the opiion of you guys?
1 Comments,
45 Views,
16 Votes
,4.74 Score
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QUALITIES OF A DOMINANT FROM A SUBS VIEW 4/25/2019
When choosing to gift your submission, what is the thing
you look for above all else, if you had a top ten of traits,
qualities you look for, what would be your number 1?
4 Comments,
417 Views,
11 Votes
,5.22 Score
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Aftercare...Why is it so important? 4/24/2019
zennflowerAftercare
is the time taken after the scene that brings the sub back
to the top out of sub space. It's where bonding between
the Dominant and sub takes place or perhaps a better way
of putting it is the re-enforcing of the bond between the
two. Aftercare lets both know that for the two of them it's
more than just play, more than just scening that the ...
14 Comments,
800 Views,
64 Votes
,8.01 Score
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First Contact Advice to a submissive man 2/2/2019
I just answered an alt message/email from someone who was
attracted to me. Perhaps some of what I said will be helpful
to other submissive men who are facing the enormous hurdle
of getting a dominant lady to notice them.
Of course, a big MUST, is to read the Lady's profile
carefully , and Her blogs or posts in the "Groups"
on alt so that you know how to write something that might
be ...
4 Comments,
523 Views,
20 Votes
,5.04 Score
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Out With Old In With New??? 2/2/2019
I have recently started dating a guy who I like very much.
He likes me too but we seem to have a situation that is causing
us problems. He has a woman he's known awhile and she
has an 18 year old , they (the mom & him) were
bed buddies before we hooked up, I found out he has been texting
& calling both mom & & not telling
me so I didn't get upset, I am uncomfortable with this,
but is it right ...
2 Comments,
118 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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Why Africa or Asia? 11/13/2018
Seems odd someone posting in africa or asia in variety of
language when looking. Picking a language seems easy unless
not serious.
2 Comments,
10 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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On Trust & Faith 10/28/2018
As those of you who have been checking in know, I have been
giving this quite some thought and have come to quite the
unexpected conclusion. You can also read this on my blog
On Trust Faith. Read on!
I have written in the past on Trust and have penned highly
raved essays that sounded great with all the right words
and phrases. We all hear that trust is one of cornerstones
of this ...
1 Comments,
67 Views,
11 Votes
,4.66 Score
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Memories that now make sense 10/28/2018
When I was a young boy, there was a married Woman nearby and
they lived with her Mother. She was around 30s, attractive,
both her and the mother were well dressed and made up always.
When they went out, the woman and her mother would walk together
chatting, he would walk about 3 yards behind them being
ignored. On the return from shopping, he would be walking
behind them carrying the bags. I ...
3 Comments,
113 Views,
13 Votes
,2.64 Score
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Chinese slaves 10/28/2018
I want to tell you about a young slut I met in Shanghai.
First time I met her she was 17 years old. She was tiny with
small tits and a nice mouthwatering body. I met her in the
street where she approached me and tried to sell her services.
I turned her down and told her that she should join me for
her own good and to learn how to behave. She reluctantly
accepted and she joined me to my place. Of ...
2 Comments,
152 Views,
24 Votes
,3.13 Score
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Are people here for something more? 6/26/2018
I am only assuming here but I imagine most people here are
highly sex driven individuals; people who think about
sex for the majority of the day. Chatting is the norm, meets
are a given but what about relationships. Are people here
to find a relationship and hopefully find love? <br><br>
With standard dating sites, you get to know the person first
and then after meeting I guess the ...
0 Comments,
26 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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my new Group Stepford Women/1950s lifestyle any one can join. 5/8/2018
please join and enjoy....
1 Comments,
64 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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Wait until you are chosen 12/28/2017
As we are all searching for the right partner. Don't
assume because you identify as a Dom it gives you the right
to instantly make demands or to disrespect someone. Untill
a sub chooses you, you are not her/his Dom. Respect is earned
not instantly given. Being chosen as a Dom is a gift not an
entitlement.
4 Comments,
44 Views,
18 Votes
,5.44 Score
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Takes Time 5/19/2017
If you want a good relationship, you need to take the time
to get to know one another. Rushing into it when you hardly
know each other usually ends up not working out.
1 Comments,
6 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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EFFORT AND TIME 4/14/2017
IT TAKES TIME AND EFFORT TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP. IT TAKES
TRUST, COMMITMENT, AND COMPROMISE TO HAVE A GREAT REALATIONSHIP
WITH YOUR PARTNER.
0 Comments,
12 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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hi there 2/5/2017
I have tried all the normal dating sites and now am here.
Looking for a relationship. I have found that some of us
have an inner strength and some of us don't. Honesty,
loyalty and honor are the ground works for any good relationship.
It would seem when you are honest you run the risk of being
scorned by many. I am not saying from the moment we meet all
will be perfect, that is and would be ...
3 Comments,
117 Views,
15 Votes
,3.44 Score
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Guide to Establishing Dominance 1/23/2017
Guide to Establishing Dominance
9/10/05
To be an Owner, you have to establish and maintain your authority
or dominance as the Owner and the slave's recognition
that they are a slave to you, their Owner. Rarely are you
in a committed Owner/slave relationship at the beginning
of the relationship with your desired slave. And, you will
probably never get your slave without ...
4 Comments,
2657 Views,
122 Votes
,3.49 Score
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EFFORT AND TIME 1/22/2017
IT TAKES TIME AND EFFORT TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP. IT TAKES
TRUST, COMMITMENT, AND COMPROMISE TO HAVE A GREAT REALATIONSHIP
WITH YOUR PARTNER.
1 Comments,
16 Views,
3 Votes
,5.39 Score
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DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE DATING/NETWORK 1/12/2017
DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE NETWORK http://alt.com FORUMS BLOGS INSTANT MESSAGING VIDEO CHAT VIDEOS GROUPS FORUMS AND MUCH MORE
0 Comments,
58 Views,
5 Votes
,2.82 Score
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When chosing a sub, does race really matter? 10/27/2016
I'm open to any race that wants to be with me, but sometimes
I get the feeling that the stigma of race is in the air when
I'm searching for the sub to be with. I'm still
first, and foremost, a gentleman, and a scholar ( college
educated with a 3.0 GPA) , and I do dress to impress on first
meets.
2 Comments,
41 Views,
6 Votes
,4.79 Score
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Do the Basic Laws of Life Remain Relevant… 9/25/2015
...Upon Entering a BDSM Relationship?
Suppose I said that, many of the traits we try to find in our
fetish partners , we also look for in every potential partner?
How true is that?
What if I sad that no one has ever 'miracled' themselves
into an ideal relationship? Maybe Fate or Chance did their parts, but I wouldn’t count
on it. It’s like Somebody’s ...
0 Comments,
74 Views,
11 Votes
,3.73 Score
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Second chance 9/25/2015
Just an expression of thanks for dominant women who give
a guy a second chance after he screws up an introduction.
Cheers.
0 Comments,
26 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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Mescaline but Submissive Gentlemen, Can It Exists or Is It Delusional! 2/8/2015
I am a mature gentlemen in has late fifties who sees himself
as being a mescaline man while a gentlemen by the nature
of the way I was raised. But I am also sexually submissive
to women and enjoy being dominated by a lady during play.
I would like to ask you ladies out there can a man be seen as
mescaline especially out in the vanilla word we live in,
a gentleman with proper etiquette and being ...
3 Comments,
49 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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a real relationship 1/28/2015
what it takes to be with the person u love so much n yal cant
not please each other and the person have to get alone with
the person u love or fall in with n yal got to talk to each other
n yal may have disagree sometimes that normal n yal have
to support each other in everyway
1 Comments,
24 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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humiliating Sarah, the first time 4/12/2014
All my stories are true unless stated.
I do have a few ideas of fiction I would like to write and will
do, sometime. For example about a man who can’t pay his
debt to me and the consequences he has to pay, his wife for
a weekend.
Another, hopefully amusing as well, about a lady who goes
to something like and meets the people
running it. They agree to have her for a day to tie ...
1 Comments,
338 Views,
16 Votes
,6.66 Score
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New to this 10/18/2012
Hi I'm new to this life and i got my first slave I'm
looking for some help i don't what I'm doing having
trouble controlling him so i ask all the doms & subs
out there to share there know how with me
2 Comments,
147 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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Building a Relationship through Humiliation 9/28/2012
Humiliation has many purposes in the training of a slave.
One of the major reasons for using humiliation is to force
the slave to push the "choice decision" she
has made to obey her Master/Mistress and be subject to his/her
will. It forces her to realize how deeply this decision
is and how obedience is not always easy. This provides positive
reinforcement.
Humiliation can have a positive ...
1 Comments,
375 Views,
8 Votes
,4.41 Score
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TRUST, HONEST and INTEGRITY.... 9/20/2012
Since I have been active in this lifestyle (8yrs) I have
learned 3 important lessons in this wonderful lifestyle
of BDSM and D.s; they are TRUST, HONESTY and INTEGRITY.
I want to share this with anyone who will take the time to
read what I have myself learned.
TRUST is an essential requirement in establishing a BDSM
and ...
5 Comments,
336 Views,
24 Votes
,6.99 Score
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Why dominants need welts, too! 8/11/2012
I recently read about a dominant
who switches being tut-tutted by submissives who insist
that they are not a "Real Dominant."
*shudder*
I also have heard dominants assert that they refuse
to bottom.
Should someone who is not self-identified as a top or dominant
ever switch?
In a ...
2 Comments,
127 Views,
10 Votes
,3.39 Score
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I have loved!!! 4/18/2012
Yes, I have loved you, do I understand you?....some
Do I love you? Yes, theres not a doubt in my mind.
To love one is to give them time to grow, yes, I have grown.
I told you I was proud of you, some yes, alot no!
I thought you were different, perhaps, so was I.
I wish you happiness, a waterfront property!
For me its my family, you and my cubs.
I guess we screwed up and ofcourse were ...
0 Comments,
73 Views,
18 Votes
,2.03 Score
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My Public Apology 4/18/2012
Need to apologize, for alot. See ive made terrible mistakes,
for fear...fear of myself. Ive done alot of growing...thanks
to you and thanks to who have shown me I am. Maybe it was a dream.
It was an honest dream. I knew id make it up to you and if you
let me ill show you. Yes I snap, but, you like it that way...you
pull the right string and stad the same wound. I will always
be yours, for ...
0 Comments,
216 Views,
45 Votes
,2.50 Score
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R diamonds a girls best friend 4/18/2012
Can wealth and diamonds realy fill the void in someones
(a dommes) soul. i think NOT! i think the jewels will keep
the domme entertained for a while, not very long though...it
cant compare the true power exchange...in my life, i believe
in the power exchange, i have lived it. can anything else
even compare? how long will it take her to venture out and
find the one thing that does make her ...
1 Comments,
240 Views,
32 Votes
,1.74 Score
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Twisted banter.. 4/14/2012
We A/all know communication is the key to any type of relationship.
So here's an example of how it works within a humiliation
one, for those of you who don't already know..
Communicating with worthless pigs. As we all know, stupid
slut females love to talk but are often very poor listeners.
Teaching the cunts effective and respectful communication
techniques should be the cornerstone of ...
7 Comments,
284 Views,
7 Votes
,4.31 Score
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Collars and Getting Over 3/30/2012
As I cruise thru this li'l playpen
that is My life, every now and then, I find myself reevaluating,
and sometimes even second guessing, my views about the
most fundamental of my beliefs. Examining what my feelings
were, are, and what, in fact, is still changing..
I had the opportunity of chatting with a lovely submissive
the other night, and thought that the overall ...
0 Comments,
93 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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Sensitive Dom? 1/7/2012
Hi and thanks for reading! Maybe you can help me? When I look at how I treat my "Toy"
it feels like I am to kind... I enjoy the ideation of them
being helpless and at my mercy! I enjoy satisfying their
needs above my own.
Always believed that a "Sub" is the one that
has the real power! Do you agree? They say how far they will
go and when to stop!
What I am getting at is I feel ...
2 Comments,
178 Views,
15 Votes
,3.90 Score
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How soon is too soon? 8/14/2011
Do you think that you should give up everything all at once
or space it over a period of time? I've thought about
this from time to time. I'm an honest person really
so I dont lie all you have to do is ask? So not letting someone
know something about you seems decietfully almost. Not
that you should give complete strangers your whole life
story, but if you really think that this person is ...
5 Comments,
209 Views,
11 Votes
,4.10 Score
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Lay down Ground Rules 8/14/2011
You have met Mr/Ms Right or Sub/Slave perfect...Now the
work begins for both sides. If you are master/mistress...lay
down the ground rules for the relationship....be it short
term...long term...causal...24/7 etc. Don't assume
someone knows something ...but it in black and white and
you have no problems...You choose the path that needs to
be taken for the situation but never leave out some form ...
6 Comments,
324 Views,
11 Votes
,5.04 Score
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New Gay Men 8/13/2011
Rainbow Power Today with the male homosexuality so out of the closet so
to speak, the Adulteress affair might sound something
like this. Hello Jim, is Carol gone to work yet? Susan left
for her Seminar in the Bahamas, come on over you big Burt
and bring that polish you got in your basket upright and
ready, my asshole is quivering.
1 Comments,
25 Views,
3 Votes
,4.41 Score
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QUALITIES OF A SUB FROM A DOMINANTS VIEW 7/11/2011
When choosing a sub, what would be your wish list, if you
had a top ten of qualities, traits which would endear a sub
to you, what would you choose, what do you look for, is it
personality, lack of perhaps, inteligence, looks?
What is the number 1 thing you look for?
4 Comments,
312 Views,
10 Votes
,4.78 Score
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Cooking at Home 7/8/2011
Cooking Honey incest is best! Roll your own and kept it in the family.
A family that sleeps together stays together! Blood is
thicker than water! Trust the ones you love, and the only
ones you can trust are your family! Stick together forever
and you’ll always have each it other; they only have themselves!
Honey, did mommy leave to go shopping? Yes Daddy! Good,
go put on the new red dress I ...
2 Comments,
104 Views,
11 Votes
,2.05 Score
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When The Dominant Becomes Gravely Ill 3/29/2011
I have been enjoying the total power exchange for 20 plus
years with girlfriends, renters, other slaves and wives.
I had prepared for the day by not totally destroying the
slave’s own fire as some desire but to control her. Besides
I like the ones with “fire†not the ones who are so totally
submissive that you have to tell them everything. I did
that when younger and found out it ...
2 Comments,
784 Views,
95 Votes
,8.42 Score
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The most important quality.. 12/12/2010
As I have come to realize, there is one quality out there
that is more important than all the other ones.. ESPECIALLY
in this lifestyle..
I would suggest everyone try and get up to speed with this,
as it will create a more comfortable, trusting, and exciting
dynamic!
NEVER JUDGE!
Also, make it clear from the start that you don't judge
people, and you'll be surprised ...
3 Comments,
172 Views,
9 Votes
,4.71 Score
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Sub Drop-a very real phenomena 11/20/2010
"Sub-Drop"
Over my experiences in the lifestyle it has never ceased
to amaze and frustrate me how many people understand what
'sub-space' is, but have no idea what 'sub-drop'
is. The truth of the matter is I discovered what it was by
experiencing it, and asking for help. I was asked if I was
experiencing 'sub-drop' and after a long discussion
I was both relieved and worried, to admit ...
18 Comments,
953 Views,
68 Votes
,8.87 Score
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Guide to Establishing Dominance Over a Male 8/20/2010
Guide to Establishing Dominance Over a Male
1/29/06
<br>
This is intended to provide a guide in establishing and
maintaining dominance over a male which can lead to development
of a modern day slave. It is a process that can be used to develop
dominance over a natural submissive applying to be a slave
or an unaware, vanilla, non-submissive. How long it may
take and ...
3 Comments,
910 Views,
16 Votes
,6.80 Score
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What it Means to be a Ma'am 5/16/2010
"Ma'am, all I want to do is be of service to You."
Sounds familiar, doesn't it? But the real surprise
to most people is that, in many ways, the Ma'am is in
service to Her property. This contradiction in terms is
the cornerstone of being a Dominant. I will be discussing
Lifestyle, 24/7 Dominance and submission. These concepts
don't necessarily apply to all situations or relationships, ...
3 Comments,
336 Views,
28 Votes
,7.86 Score
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Tall Ships, Shinning Stars, Brass Rings and Water Meter Covers 11/14/2009
Tall Ships, Brass Rings, Shinning Stars and Water Meter
Covers.....
We all think that we know just what we want; just what we’d
wish for if given a chance, but in actuality, how many of
us get the opportunity to reach for that star shinning so
brightly in the night sky or the magical carousel’s brass
ring? How many get to board that tall ship and sail into our
destiny?
...
3 Comments,
86 Views,
8 Votes
,5.10 Score
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Learning to serve: the real life slave 11/5/2009
Having experienced serving many Mistresses over the last
5 years, a yearning grew in me to be a real life slave to a Mistress.
I would think about this constantly, and the more a fantasized
about the prospect, the more profound my yearning became.
In fact, it became an obsession. The thought or being truly
owned, both body and mind, the idea of giving total and absolute
obedience in total ...
3 Comments,
206 Views,
6 Votes
,5.07 Score
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Finding "The One" 10/12/2009
I'd like to discuss a long time frustration of mine-
women only interested in finding "The One".
Seems like a whole lot of women, submiisve or otherwise,
won't have even a conversation with a guy if he can't
be deemed immediately "The One".
Now I realize that nobody wants to be used or have their little
heart broken, but really ladies, you need to lighten up.
Finding ...
3 Comments,
149 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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Getting your wife to lead 9/25/2009
Many times my wife and I have tried and failed to initiate
a D/s relationship. I always knew she was capable of being
a female dominant, based on the early years of our relationship,
but only now do I realized where I made errors.
I should never have written contracts with so many rules
and details. It's like starting at 60 mph. Even though
we both signed each time we tried, the ...
1 Comments,
173 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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Is it me? 7/17/2009
Every where I read are success stories but when I try to contact
some one I do not get a response ? How do you get someone to
notice you...How ever I was not interested in , i send out
a one liner polite answer. Is it not the write thing to be
honest or what ???
5 Comments,
147 Views,
10 Votes
,1.79 Score
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Slavery and Servitude 6/8/2009
Can a slave say no, it's a question to which I believe
there is no definitive answer, but to Me the answer is simply
no. Grins at this point the submissives go running to the door
screaming red light and calling 911. Simply put slavery is putting the life in the hands of their
Master and after that the slave should have two choices
obey or leave, but rationally at times a third exists beg,
and ...
2 Comments,
169 Views,
4 Votes
,5.57 Score
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FUN AND FUCK 3/3/2009
HAAI..I AM A 29 YEARS GIRL ..ONE DAY ONE OF MY FRIEND CAME
TO MY HOME WITH HER HUSBOND..ACTULLY THE MISSED THIER BUS
AND CAME TO OUR HOME FOR NIGHT STAY..WE TOOK THE DINNER TOGHETER
AND THEY INCIST ME TO JOIN THEM FOR FUN I WAS THINKING BUT
SLOWELY HE STARTED TO TOUCH MY BODY..FIRST HE STARTED TO
RUB MY SHOULDER AND OPINCH MY BOOBS WHEN HE IS PLAYING WITH
MY BODY MY FRIEND STARTED TO LIFT MY ...
4 Comments,
493 Views,
26 Votes
,1.41 Score
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On relationships... 12/9/2008
Its been said that the biggest mistake men make going into
a relationship is to believe that the gal will stay the same,
and that the biggest mistake women make going into a relationship
is to believe that the guy will change (in the way they want
him to). Both are wrong, indeed somewhat happily so. To
remain the same would be to become stagnant, and to change
completely means that at some inner ...
1 Comments,
133 Views,
11 Votes
,6.16 Score
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How I view Serious M/s Relationships 10/20/2008
You will also find this on my profile as it would help a perspective
slave gain an understanding of my views of the M/s relationship.
I have had a couple FTPE (full time power exchange) relationships
that were really more my thing although I enjoy a "bedroom
only" M/s relationship too, I like the structure
it provides... What turns me on about it is: the total power
over someone else, ...
0 Comments,
149 Views,
14 Votes
,5.06 Score
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How can I get my husband to be turned on by being dominant? 6/26/2008
I'm looking for advice on how to turn a vanilla into
a dominant. Any ideas? He will do a light hand spanking,
go from behind and make me go down on him and talk a little
dirty. However, it is rare and takes a little prodding from
me. I've tried watching porn with him and movies and
telling him what I like. I guess I feel like it sort of ruins
the scene when the submissive is trying to ...
4 Comments,
112 Views,
22 Votes
,7.33 Score
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How Well Do You Listen To You? 5/17/2008
How well do you listen to yourself? How closely do you pay
attention to your "gut instincts"? How well
do you take action based on this information?
These gut instincts were originally named as the information
comes from our "gut" or power center. The seat
of our life force, what in the East is called Chi.
We'd like to believe that what someone tells about
themselves to be true. ...
1 Comments,
52 Views,
7 Votes
,4.82 Score
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getting back with an ex 3/20/2008
i was wondering wat are some ways to show or prove to ya ex
that u fucked up and want to get back together. the fact is
my ex says that i will always be in her heart damn i fucked
up when i told her it might not work cause she moved so far.
i need help. any suggestions
1 Comments,
66 Views,
0 Votes
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The Perfect Master - Misconception and Resolution 2/3/2008
Hello,
<br>
We thought that you might enjoy a short essay that we recently
wrote. Any comments are welcome!
<br>
Happy holidays!
Sir Eric
<br>
<br>
The Perfect Master – Misconception and Resolution*
<br>
"You, the Master, are in charge and in control. You
own the responsibility of your property - whether it is
real estate, slaves or your ...
4 Comments,
410 Views,
32 Votes
,4.27 Score
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Bonding and Spirituality in D/s 2/3/2008
Service is an essential part in many D/s relationships
and it provides a natural way to bond between Master and
slave (or dominant and submissive -- throughout this essay
for simplicity, we will refer to the dominant as Master
and the submissive as slave). However, most service is
task and goal oriented. In other words, the slave is given
orders to complete a set of assignments. It is ...
2 Comments,
604 Views,
11 Votes
,5.97 Score
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Help needed... 10/6/2007
Hi everyone, I'm a newbie sub who is trying to set out
on the BDSM journey. So far its going ok, but I now think I've
meet that 'dom guy' the one your warned about.
So I'm looking for some advice and any suggestions
from both subs and dom's.
Firstly we had chatted briefly, he knew I was a newbie and
looking for a dom guy to train me, it was one conversation
and with that came the ...
7 Comments,
797 Views,
29 Votes
,5.95 Score
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Looking for a good relationship 9/23/2007
Forgive my insertion of opinion here but, .... so many people
here have voiced disappointment with the failings of a
relationship and maintaing it... so .. here's what
i think.
What many seek is M/s (Master/slave or Master/submissive)
not D/s as strictly defined.Yes, sadly it is true. Most
toppy type dominants are just bossy people who get off getting
their own way in what is typically a ...
4 Comments,
673 Views,
44 Votes
,5.24 Score
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Understanding 9/23/2007
While building up a relationship it's
very important to take two features into consideration.
1. Priorities are no the same, for man and woman, hence interest
tend to vary, besides most man are not multitasking. While
a woman can watch a movie and talk with a friend, if a woman
approaches a man who is looking into a football game, he
tends to either ignore the woman, or ...
0 Comments,
98 Views,
6 Votes
,3.65 Score
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Knowing more about BDSM than your partner 7/31/2007
I have trained women who are experienced in BDSM, and on'e
who are just learning about it, and what they want to gain
from the experience. I tend to take it slower with newbies so as not to make it too
intense to start. I like to feel out whether they are just
looking to be tied up and f*cked, or if they are truly looking
to give up control at a greater level...more of a Master/slave
situation. ...
2 Comments,
172 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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Belated Birthday Surprise 7/29/2007
Where is She? Where can She be? I just keep wondering. It
has been almost 45 minutes now since She called saying She
was leaving and headed my way. I have had time to check into
the Ramington Inn, get maintenance to come get the door
open for me when the key wouldn’t work, get undressed, put
the chain leashes on the bed in case She wants to spreadeagle
me on it and now it seems I have been ...
1 Comments,
103 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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How do I learn to trust again? 7/26/2007
I am a lifetime submissive. I currently am in a 24/7 with my Master. My problem is trust. Because of past issues with Doms not being honest and faithful, I am having a hard time trusting my Master.
We met a yr ago and I knew he had other slaves. He knew I was not poly and gave up his slaves and his life in CA to come live with me in a small town. However he keeps his slaves online and keeps in ...
6 Comments,
82 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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I don't understand... 6/29/2007
Hi,
I'm a newbie submissive, stepping out on the road to
learning about becoming a good sub for a potential dom.
A long time ago I meet a fantastic dom, who I liked very much
and felt liked me. Everything was going really well, and
we talked about meeting up. I cannot stress how much I wanted
him, and to meet him. Yet at the same time I was going through
an extremely ...
2 Comments,
459 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Building a relationship 6/12/2007
When you want to build a relationship, first off, make sure
you are truly in love with the person. Don't confuse
love with a passing, temporary infatuation. Spend some
good, quality time with that person. Notice how often you
two have sex with each other. If after a year or two, the sex
is still great, then go for it. If not, then it's time
to call it quits before someone's feelings get ...
0 Comments,
96 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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Long Distance Relationships 5/29/2007
Being in a long distance relationship, takes two people
that believe in trust. When I speak of trust, it must engulf
your entire relationship. Every day I send an email and
talk on the phone with my loved one. Sometimes I feel so good
after hearing him and other times my heart aches more not
having him with me. We never take our love for granted each
time we spend together we jam a month ...
7 Comments,
1070 Views,
69 Votes
,7.23 Score
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an offering to the internet gods 5/13/2007
One day in a moment of great emotion with my Master i uttered
the words, “i wish i could give up an offering to the
internet gods to thank them!’ my Master thought
about this and then told me that i could do just that by writing
an account of “the story so far†and posting
it as an article on alt.com for all to see. This is that account.
<br>
<br>
my story begins ...
1 Comments,
111 Views,
27 Votes
,7.76 Score
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Gaining the trust of first timer submissives 4/6/2007
I sincerely think that there are a number of so called Doms
that never listen to a submissives needs. No joking, to
build up trust is the first priority, then you can extend
limits, introduce new ideas. Whenever I have a newbie submissive
I explain what I intend to do and ask if there is anything
that they are unhappy about. If there is we discuss it, if
necessary modify the idea. ...
1 Comments,
378 Views,
17 Votes
,5.25 Score
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Proper Speech Equitete 4/3/2007
When courting a Domme, how should a new submissive act?
I was wondering, is there a proper speech etiquette when
talking when a Submissive is talking to a Domme? I'm
a little new, and I don't want to put anyone off. Are
there any words I should not say, or be hesitant in saying?
Also, when meeting in public, is there a proper way I should
act? Or should I just be ...
0 Comments,
297 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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You Can’t Go Home Again -- Or Can you? 4/1/2007
Thomas Wolfe’s critically acclaimed novel, You Can’t
Go Home Again, was published in 1940. The novel chronicles
a man’s search for himself and centers on the theme that
you cannot recover the past. This novel came to my mind when
I began reading a book entitled Finding Meaning in the Second
Half of Life: How to Finally Really Grow Up by James Hollis
(2005).
Wolfe’s novel ...
0 Comments,
80 Views,
6 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Are Harems Okay 3/31/2007
Ive been wondering if people think that having many subs
is okay? My Master has his little harem, I call them since
I dont include myself personally in with them. Is that wrong...?
im the jealous type so it took some getting used to. But I
finally gave over control of those issues to him and asked
what I needed and now I feel better....
5 Comments,
236 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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Can you ignore your nature? 3/20/2007
So ever since I was a little girl I knew that there was something
different about me. as a I enjoyed it when I got spanked, (Which
was often)LOL! I remember when I was 14 I was at gym after
school and I had a crush on a teachers aid that was 18. One
day after everyone had left, I was alone with this guy and
he asked me to come to the back office with him because he
wanted to show me ...
0 Comments,
101 Views,
15 Votes
,4.20 Score
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my take on building a relationship 3/8/2007
be 100 percent you want to start it before you begin it as
the are full time work at the start so you dont have time to
think about if there the perfect one because you need all
the time you can get making it the perfect one
1 Comments,
92 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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How can you build a succesfull relationship starting with a computer? 2/28/2007
Is it even possible? How can you get away with it when some
of the people you meet are married and want a discreet relationship?
Sex only is good if you know that going in but not if you don't
and are expecting something else entirely. I guess I'm
just not good at weeding out what I don't want yet.
6 Comments,
169 Views,
6 Votes
,1.37 Score
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Training by Rob Hart 2/13/2007
"I want to be trained."
<br>
These are delightful words to hear. They show desire; they
promise fun; and they speak of trust. But what does it mean
to train a submissive? It is far more than instructing a
submissive on the expectations of a particular Dominant,
or making her a good "generic slave" (there
being no such thing). It is also never a one-way flow of information
or ...
3 Comments,
894 Views,
43 Votes
,8.83 Score
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What it Means to be a slave 2/1/2007
I may have a different definition of a slave than most so
I will explain that first. For Me, a slave is not someone
who gives up their rights as human beings. A slave is someone
that in many ways must be just as strong as their Dominant.
Case in point. At a run, a Dominant may want to stay out late
and play and may not have eaten. The slave must be the one
who makes sure the Dominant ...
0 Comments,
418 Views,
25 Votes
,7.45 Score
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trust 1/8/2007
i have given this some thought, and still havent come up
with the right answer. Is there an right answer?? How do
you let your gaurd down to trust someone? You hear of bad
things happening all the time and that scares me, we play
in a world that can be scary, but i think thats the fun of it.
But can it be taken too far?
3 Comments,
125 Views,
6 Votes
,5.07 Score
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My last business trip 12/16/2006
I checked into a hotel on a business trip and was a bit lonely
so I thought I'd get me one of those girls you see advertised
in phone booths when your calling for a cab.
I grabbed a card on my way in. It was an ad for a girl calling
herself Erogonique, a lovely girl, bending over in the
photo.
She had all the right ...
0 Comments,
963 Views,
11 Votes
,5.60 Score
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From first chat to collaring 12/5/2006
Dear men,
<br>
Dominant or submissive, Master or slave, I believe there
are a few things you need to know if you haven't figured
them out all ready.
<br>
Level 1: If you are trying to start a relationship on Alt.com
or any other BDSM site, firstly knock it off with the cock
shots! Do you seriously think this is what is going to turn
a Woman on (I'm sorry, but I ...
9 Comments,
443 Views,
182 Votes
,7.92 Score
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No toes left 12/3/2006
Think i keep shooting myself in the foot by being to open
and honest about what i want as most "doms" just
read the profile of a sub and say "hay guess what i like
what you like".I am so sick of the fakes on here, you
can talk to a sub for a month but when you come to meet up there
always a problem!(i hear its just as bad for subs looking
for doms, they get told they are going to get used ...
0 Comments,
293 Views,
9 Votes
,5.14 Score
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She is MY cunt !! 11/28/2006
She is my cunt
Look at the animal world , males battle each other to insure
their sperm lives ! now females go to be protected by a strong
male that has more than one female , in fact the scent of woman
attracts females .
I had divorce court today , first time I have really seen
my adorable lil 25 year old future ex wife in a year ..( dam
this case ...
2 Comments,
256 Views,
7 Votes
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going nowhere 11/2/2006
Hello .Iam finding it very difficult to get any response
from any of the women on this site.Its very frustrating.Im
a very shy type of person and find it difficult to express
my sexual fantasies.I know im anonymous, which makes
it easier.I want to explore and have fun but im just a loser.I
obviously am ugly or unsuitable for some reason.Being
a loner isnt easy for me.
I want to be ruled ...
3 Comments,
174 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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How long is a peice of rope? 10/22/2006
It seems to me that everyone is rushing aboput in their daily
lives. Is speed the essence of living? I believe that when
entering into a bdsm relationship, that he time taklen
to get to know yourself and that of your partner is crucial.
If not enough time is taken to self acknowledge your feelings
emotions, fantasies, etc then how can you be truthful and
open with your partner? My ...
1 Comments,
51 Views,
22 Votes
,6.37 Score
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please help... any counsellors (a women's reply would help me more) 10/5/2006
I've got a very strange problem with my girlfriend...
what do i do... please help...
i have a girl friend and she's really sweet and we both
are in love for about a year now... we both get along very
well and we understand each other perfectly... And most
of all we both respect each other very much...
But my girlfriend is having some health problems... VERY
COMPLICATED ...
4 Comments,
164 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Looking For Info 10/4/2006
I am looking for consent forms, or anything of the sort.
Trying to find forms and documents to havemy sub complete
to see what she is willing to submit too and what she isn't.
Still new at this and I haven't built up my library of
knowledge yet. If you have any please help me.
0 Comments,
111 Views,
0 Votes
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Relationships 9/22/2006
99% of relationships are based on lies
0 Comments,
157 Views,
11 Votes
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“Life as a bottoms’ top†9/8/2006
Hello thank you for taking the time to read this rambling.
I was married to a Male Marine for over twenty years and after
all that time of (if I may modestly say) perfecting my talents
as a bottom – I find my preferences to be more toward get some
hunger hole (mouth or ass) and mercifully cramming it full
to my satisfaction with my fat dick. This is not to say I do
not enjoy the same at ...
1 Comments,
117 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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Too much information too soon? 8/24/2006
Is it possible to reveal too much about one's self too
soon in a relationship?
I'm the kind of guy that will answer you truthfully
about anything you ask with little to no forethought about
the repercussions my answer may cause. Despite my usual
quietness, I'm not afraid to tell you what I think.
But, there are times when I feel that I have said a little
too much when it comes to ...
4 Comments,
238 Views,
3 Votes
,4.41 Score
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reply to: how to say she's beautiful 7/27/2006
If it please you Sir. To tell a woman she is beautiful is nothing.
But to show it, that is what matters. Hear it frim a woman.
When you tell awoman she is beautiful and that you like to
sleep on her boobs she talkes it at face value. When you take
a nice long look at another woman passing by on the street
you just erased your past 5 compliments. You must let it
show that she is hot. If you ...
2 Comments,
647 Views,
97 Votes
,7.94 Score
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From Russia With Love 7/27/2006
I've met a woman from Russia on a European website.
She is 29 and I am 36. We've been writing emails back
and forth and the relationship appears to be growing into
a long distance one. She does not speak English very well
and uses a translator program to read my emails. Out of respect
I send her and email in English and another of the same content
in Russian using a free online ...
0 Comments,
53 Views,
13 Votes
,0.79 Score
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What is a submissive? 7/24/2006
Are you really submissive? the person submitting the profile
says he/she is dominant. You reply saying you are submissive.
You exchange a few emails and the dominant learns that when
you say you are submissive, you mean, you like sexual intercourse
from the standpoint of being the bottom. The person writing
you disappears. You wonder why. The answer is that being
bottom does not make ...
5 Comments,
2204 Views,
314 Votes
,5.92 Score
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How can you be sure about the other? 7/21/2006
I am wondering who else has been in this situation? You are
with a dom/sub they are already in a full relationship that
is not dealing with bdsm/alt, their other half does not
know anything about what they are into. So here is my question;
If they are not being true to the other half and telling them
nothing or lieing to them, how can you completely trust
what they are saying to you as ...
1 Comments,
192 Views,
0 Votes
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Lying submissives 7/9/2006
Submissive men sometimes lie to Mistress. This happens
when they want to present themselves as more submissive
than they are. Should a Mistress dismiss a liar? I think,
she could give him a chance to prove himself prior to dismissal.
Set him a difficult task, do not forgive a liar easily.
1 Comments,
138 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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Older Women and Younger Men 6/22/2006
I see that Alt are running a Poll and the question is directed
at men. Perhaps it would interst people to know that a large
majority of Fem Domme/submissive relationships are where
the woman is older and the submissive is younger.
<br>
I am currently in such a relationship and the submissive
is 13 years my junior. I originally had a lot of misgivings
about just such a ...
2 Comments,
172 Views,
43 Votes
,7.70 Score
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A Mistress Speaks To Her Submissive: Regarding Chastity Devices 6/20/2006
Topically, my feelings are for the advantage of both of
us when chastity devices are employed. They include your
desire to turn over the ownership and control of your gender’s
core--your sexuality. As well as my desire to possess and
control your sexuality. (Admittedly so, this adds a flare
of excitement and sexual arousal to our relationship,
and that’s as it should be, but this too ...
2 Comments,
833 Views,
71 Votes
,6.43 Score
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Hard to find someone serious.... 6/17/2006
Me and Mt pet has been looking for a possable live in. We have
joined many of the groups for our location, have tried talking
with many possabilities. We keep running into the same
problem, someone says they are involved and or looking
to learn. Then we start talking and thats all it is is talk,
We havent found to many people actually aactive or serious
in the kind of commitment We are ...
3 Comments,
97 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Adult Nursing 3/10/2006
My very first experience with adult nursing happpened
quite by mistake. I had, had a miscarriage so my breast were
leaking. the person I was dating came over to see how I was
feeling. I mentioned to him that my breast were milking
and he said that he had always wanted to try that. I removed
one of my breast and allowed him to suckle ( I've always
had a thing for having them sucked). It ...
2 Comments,
2471 Views,
139 Votes
,5.64 Score
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How to make your gf into a Dominatrix :) 3/8/2006
Hi
What was the best way to gradually transform your gf from
a normal girl to a fun domme? Any ideas on the matter, please
share.
1 Comments,
149 Views,
4 Votes
,0.14 Score
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nice and slow 3/1/2006
Was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. My first
marraige was kind of one of those love at first site things.
Now divorced I find myself extremely picky. That typical
anyone?
0 Comments,
132 Views,
8 Votes
,1.16 Score
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False Starts 2/25/2006
I am wondering if many people on Alt experience frustration.
I sent a message to a couple that lives close by and explained
it was always my dream to interact with a male/female couple.
That very same day I recevied a message back from them. It
was very inviting. They wanted to establish friendship
first, which I always like to do before plunging into more
physical events. In my first ...
1 Comments,
300 Views,
10 Votes
,2.39 Score
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Opening Doors... 2/25/2006
"I Don’t Share...usually, " an acquaintance
said.
A shame, that - or is ‘too bad’ a better statement?
<br>
Not that the friend never disclosed, just rarely did, almost
as if it were as precious and as worthy of care as a secret
treasure. While there may be many other roots, I feel a major
one is a fear of vulnerability, which many see as weakness,
or being seen in a less ...
0 Comments,
161 Views,
10 Votes
,3.98 Score
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Dominant 101 2/17/2006
A dominant relation is one in which one person is given complete
control. By expecting this control the dominant partner
also assumes a level of responsibly for the other partner
and the relationship. It’s not all just fun and play. Your
role as the dominant requires that you to be the decision
maker and the stabling influence in the relationship.
If you’re not willing to except the ...
0 Comments,
146 Views,
52 Votes
,8.16 Score
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Training and developing subs tips 2/12/2006
Most people consider others in a cookie cutter fashion,
however in a Dom/Sub relationship there are a lot of areas
that need to be identified.
<br>
1. Does your Sub want to be obedient all the time, in the bedroom
or just from time to time.
<br>
Example. I have had subs who want to be in it all the time at
first, then only when we are together, then finally only
in the ...
0 Comments,
458 Views,
15 Votes
,5.73 Score
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nice 1/8/2006
Nice nad beauty!
1 Comments,
157 Views,
9 Votes
,1.29 Score
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I fell in Love with my slave! 1/8/2006
It's strange for me to have to admit that I, a Mistress,
fell in love with my slave. But it's true.When we met
here on alt, I was envolved with somebody else and was just
needing a friend.I met my one when I was at the point of ending
my relationship with my b/f and just needed a friend to listen,
tell me i was right or wrong without judging me.We became
very close friends over the next few ...
1 Comments,
117 Views,
34 Votes
,6.48 Score
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Building a Serious Relationship 1/8/2006
I've recently started coming back out of My sabbatical.
That's a polite way of saying I was licking My wounds
and now I think I've found out why so M/many come back.
After the last time I got "burned", I swore I'd
never return to seeking My one and only sub/slave. But I'm
hoping that I am making some headway.
I can understand why so M/many of My past F/friends have
left. T/they felt ...
1 Comments,
263 Views,
70 Votes
,8.61 Score
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"practice make perfect" 1/8/2006
the art of communication is the key to a healthy relationship...n
for most women, being in a healthy, intimate relationship
is the foundation to great SEX....
2 Comments,
116 Views,
26 Votes
,5.18 Score
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***a woman needs*** 1/8/2006
someone who cares about her well-being...n understand
what she's going through...recognise n value her
feelings....
someone to love freely n trust..that she will be loved in
return...
someone to notice her...love her n adore her...
someone she can confide in..trustworthy n will not turn
on her n break her confidence....
1 Comments,
70 Views,
29 Votes
,7.25 Score
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"a man needs" 1/8/2006
a woman to accept him just the way he is....trust him n be
his friend....admire him for what he has done or tried to
do....give him the opportunity to fulfil your needs.....surprise
him n keep him on the boiling point when it comes to sex...share
the fantasies...most of all nag him NOT....coz he will
run n scare him not...coz men r also very sensitive n fragile....
2 Comments,
171 Views,
51 Votes
,6.72 Score
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Co-dependancy and slave owning 1/8/2006
Many dream of the perfect slave/owner relationship...one
of devotion,
disciple, function and feeling owned body mind and soul...
This is a beautiful fantasy, but the reality can easily
become
unhealthy co-dependancy. In a safe, sane, and consensual
ideal this
isn't exactly sane.
<br>
Where is this line? Can one have a relationship that fulfills
the
fantasy and definition of ...
3 Comments,
363 Views,
34 Votes
,5.31 Score
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New Group - Naughty Schoolgirl Memories 12/5/2005
come by and visit
1 Comments,
132 Views,
2 Votes
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My first meeting with Master 12/5/2005
My first meeting with Master was a meeting I will never forget.
I was excited that he would meet with me and nervous as to
what to excpect. I am very new to this and wasn't quite
sure what I wanted. I did know that I couldn't wait to
meet him. We met at a public place and talked for what seemed
like hours. I felt comfortable but yet knew I was being inspected
to see if I was worthy of his ...
0 Comments,
543 Views,
24 Votes
,2.79 Score
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"a soulmate" 11/23/2005
a soul-mate is someone who has the unique ability to bring
out the best in us....with a heart full of love, you will
express your highest potential, while also fulfilling
your soul's deepest purpose:to love n be loved !!
2 Comments,
76 Views,
20 Votes
,5.93 Score
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Finding the right one, but they leave you just before!!! 11/9/2005
I have noticed a lot on these websites that a person can find
a good match, but when it comes time to meet, they lose all
confidence and leave without a word or tell you that you
are unworthy of their time. I'm extremely careful
with what I show and do online, and also really look into
a person to make sure they are safe as well. But you get past
this point and however long it had taken ...
1 Comments,
285 Views,
0 Votes
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Quiet vs talkative 10/8/2005
I have notice that most girls that stay to themselves are
more active, when i say more active i mean when they find
a man they can trust and feel comfortable around, she would
show you a side of her that will outstand most forward girl!!
think about it, just say you met this girl and shes real conservative
and shy, you might start thinking that she might be boring
in the bedroom!!! trust me ...
4 Comments,
171 Views,
8 Votes
,3.71 Score
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The Reality of Vuilding Relationships on the Net 10/5/2005
Ok, let's be honest here... Looking through a screen
(I like to call it an idiot box) is not really the most honest
way to meet someone, especially in an area as sensitive
as alternative lifestyles.
<br>
But you know what? It can work. I have been at alt for almost
2 years now. I have been collared to my wonderful Owner for
14 months. We met in the Southern Room here at alt. ...
1 Comments,
91 Views,
44 Votes
,8.95 Score
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What i have always known and yet it still got to me becareful 10/4/2005
My goodness you would think by looking at my profile and
as long as i have been a slave if anyone in this world would
know better it would be me. Yet here i am being a dummy and
telling anyone who reads this becareful as you can get sucked
in and not realize it and all of the sudden you end up with
being in a very bad spot in your life.
i can't memtion any names but some of the people ...
3 Comments,
1085 Views,
36 Votes
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Big surprise 9/26/2005
It all started at this party. We were all playing truth or
dare; we were all having the time of our life. Now my friends
all new that I’m straight and I have never backed down from
a dare before. Any ways I was dared to suck on this girl’s
breast and of course I did. After that I was a little hard
then the girl I had just been sucking on dared the man right
next to me to give the guy ...
0 Comments,
305 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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across the ocean 9/12/2005
I've made a rather special friend who wants me to vist
her in the philipines some day. Nothing abnormal about
it, but she wants to do that. What's your take on it?
Is it a bad idea to go to a country on vacation as a request?
I think it'd be nice to go and all, but it seems like a
lot to do for a friend.
0 Comments,
130 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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what is happening ? 9/9/2005
As I am very new at the internet and new to Alt, I am having
trouble understanding my feelings..I have been single
no sex for a while, I am finding myself really caught up
in this life.thats what I am here for, but really talking
deep.its all I think about..since I joined, just a question
I would like others thoughts on is it easy to get caught up
in the new excietment of this life style ...
2 Comments,
332 Views,
9 Votes
,4.49 Score
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Dommes--take a break now and then! 9/4/2005
I'm a lesbian domme. I'm a hardass, with strict
protocol, and my submissive and I are always in role. I plan
elaborate scenes, and we play very very hard.
<br>
Last weekend, she asked to take me out on a vanilla date.
She asked that we be out of role. I protested a bit for the
fun of it, then accepted.
<br>
That Saturday morning, I received a dozen roses. Then,
when ...
1 Comments,
124 Views,
22 Votes
,7.45 Score
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PREPARATION FOR THE SLAVE ASS 9/4/2005
To trian a slave ass takes a lot. First one must be willing
to do the job.............every ass starts out-- OK- "I, m
a ass"....but to be prefected each ass must undergo-
specialized training.
In order to accomplish slave training the master must be
prepared to take the steps, bare the expense and work diligently
to accomplish his or her goals.
2 Comments,
323 Views,
10 Votes
,2.39 Score
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Don't put all your eggs in one BASKET!!!!! 9/3/2005
I learned that if your starting a relatinship with a woman,
that its best not to give her all your attention or go out
your way 100% for her. Woman have a way that at first they
will appreciate all the sweet things you say to her and do
for her, then later on when the relationship go on for a while,
all the same sweet things you say and do for her would somehow
make her feel suffocated ...
1 Comments,
128 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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What in Earth is a Pure Trust slave Realtionship w/his(er)Owner 8/25/2005
i never heard of no limits until maybe 10 or 12 years aod to
be honest.
i have found (3) different Dominate Females and all True
Dominats's those i think who where born with an extra
gene as i was and is why i am as submissive as i am although
i am afriad they did not realize at the time i was who i am and
they where who they are.So even though i begged all of them
to come and claim me ...
1 Comments,
124 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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how do you do it? 8/24/2005
i need to find out how to build up a sucsessful sub/dom relationship!
its so annoying all i want to do it to b abused and used in so
many ways and its justnot happening:'( how do you do
it? please tell me........:'(
0 Comments,
227 Views,
0 Votes
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For me it started Very Early in my life with a childhood friend 8/13/2005
i guess all relationships start at some point or another
but mine started if i am really to think about it around 9
or 10 years old with my childhood playmate who late became
my girl friend and then my Mistress and then my Wife.
So i guess we will start at the beginning and if you folks
want to hear more let me know and i will continue (but understand
i have changed names and places as ...
1 Comments,
184 Views,
8 Votes
,5.33 Score
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Body, Mind and Soul ... are you really out there? 8/6/2005
It is interesting to me that though we are all here on Alt.com
to seek that which is beyond what most in general society
call "the Norm", in many ways, we seek what our
vanilla friends seek, as well. We just choose to look for
the edges and in some cases the extremes in expressing our
feelings with one another. Most vanilla people want someone
who cares about them; they want someone with ...
3 Comments,
630 Views,
20 Votes
,6.70 Score
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When feelings does not grow at same speed... 8/6/2005
Is it unusual that feelings does not come/grow at same speed
in a BDSM-relationship ?
<br>
And is it so that it maybe comes faster/stronger from the
submissive part, because of the need to involve feelings
to be able to give him/her self to a dominant ?
<br>
I have experienced this some times during my life; as submissive,
I NEED to have feelings for the one I do give ...
3 Comments,
474 Views,
11 Votes
,2.61 Score
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If you really want to WOW your girl.... 8/2/2005
I swear if you do this you will have her (or him) forever!!!
<br>
Purchase a dozen roses, go to your local arts and crafts
store and purchase one silk rose. (You can get them looking
so real!) Take one of the real roses out of the vase and place
on her pillow. Add the silk rose into the middle of the 11
remaining roses. (Cut silk stem down if rose doesnt completely
match, that way ...
3 Comments,
493 Views,
53 Votes
,5.59 Score
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RE: First Meets 7/31/2005
In this modern world of uncertainty, no one can be too cautous.
Yes, even Doms/Masters have a need for safety from explortation,
blackmail, etc. The internet offers numerous opportunities
to meet new people. How wonderful and exciting it can be.
However, it can also be devasting and deadly if you should
fall prey to the wrong person. During my voyage through
the Alt. lifestyle (very short ...
0 Comments,
48 Views,
28 Votes
,7.45 Score
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Several signs of poor doming 7/9/2005
So, I am a sub and proud of that. I have several tips for other
subs in separating the real Dom from the posers.
<br>
<br>
1. The Dom meets and greets you one time with no intention
of playing.
<br>
<br>
2. You agree to safe sane limits
<br>
<br>
3. You understand and agree to what you can provide from
the ...
3 Comments,
1601 Views,
122 Votes
,5.12 Score
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truth and nothing but the truth 7/9/2005
From life experience I can tell you that lies breed hate
and mistrust so if anyone wants a relationship or marriage
to last truth and nothing but the truth no matter what lie
to me good-bye, tell me the truth and we will get by
1 Comments,
185 Views,
6 Votes
,4.79 Score
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just wanting sex or build a relationship? 7/9/2005
i am getting frustrated with Dom's who bascially are
out for only kinky sex. *sigh* i am looking for more of a realtionship..
is it rude to want to know a Dom before You submit? why is it
some Dom's feel You should obey them from the first
hello? Is it wrong to want to know them before i submit?
*sigh*
<br>
confused jenn
1 Comments,
61 Views,
19 Votes
,7.21 Score
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knowing is not to abuse 7/6/2005
I was going to post a comment to the “Diff. between S/D relationship
& mentally abusive one? “
And then thought better of it…. Safe Sane & consensual…
yes.
The problem arises from the age old candy store syndrome
I am in the candy store and I want…
<br>
I have heard and seen Dominants and submissive who jump
in and commit to a D/s or M/s relationship from the ...
2 Comments,
269 Views,
9 Votes
,5.99 Score
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how to tell one your a tg 6/30/2005
Hi Im a transvestite and live as one ! I have recently met
someone and things are going well thing is this person knows
nothing about my sexuality and i dont know how to approach
this subject without hurting this person or making them
think there is something wrong with them or with me ! i am
at a loss as how to approach this anyhelp would be appreciated
!
5 Comments,
153 Views,
15 Votes
,2.21 Score
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IS THERE ANYTHING WORSE THAN NO SHOWS? 6/26/2005
Hi friends, I'm back and want to address this issue..NO
SHOWS. Is there anything worse? I suppose there is, I've
just found that every member I ever met personallly, was
at the least, part of who they said they were..lol/
<br>
But no shows, that is the bottom of the food chain, utter
disrespect and real callousness that enflames a person's
emotions and hurts frankly.
<br> ...
5 Comments,
1000 Views,
58 Votes
,5.05 Score
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The Bee Versus The Flower 6/20/2005
Still new to being a submissive, I am always looking for
ways to understand my relationship to my Dom. While He is
completely in charge outwardly, I feel at sometimes I am
in charge inwardly. Not a powerful 'in charge, '
just a knowing within that I do have somewhat control of
what I do and do not give. He knows that to receive unwillingly
is both a waste of time and energy.
My Dom, ...
0 Comments,
670 Views,
20 Votes
,4.91 Score
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Problems with Mom..getting better 6/18/2005
When I met my bodyfiend It was the first time I had met someone
from ALT. I told my parents I was going out to a friends for
a couple of hours. I wasnt sure how they would react to my
telling them "Hey MOM! Going to met some strange guy
and have sex! Be home by 12! Bye!" I was only 19 and new
to the world of BDSM. I figured my parents would rant and
rave and call the police. But My ...
0 Comments,
1301 Views,
61 Votes
,3.38 Score
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Usually the next day 6/18/2005
I will never forget my first real girlfriend in high school,
after
I spent most of the night thinking she was asleep with my
face in her panty covered ass, and sucking her asshole.The
next morning forever changed me, I realized I do have a
female counterpart, that is a girl who is into recieving
oral sex only and lots of assworship.U see she woke me up
by sitting on my face, telling ...
0 Comments,
2240 Views,
80 Votes
,0.07 Score
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It takes time 6/6/2005
To build a relationship takes time in a "vanilla"
relationship...
- and maybe even more time in a BDSM-relationship, because
there is even more elements that shall "fit".
<br>
I think it is importante to get to know (im my situation)
the man, before I get to know the Master.
No matter how strict you are planning to live the relationship,
you are both humans, both peoples, ...
1 Comments,
778 Views,
37 Votes
,5.01 Score
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Are feelings ruled by "old genes" ? 5/29/2005
Is the fact that humans, genetically, are animals...
- still causing troubles for us, in building a relationship,
in modern times ?
<br>
Is it so that many of the reactions we have, comes from an
almost pre-historic instinct, and/or are genetically
“decided†or “programmedâ€
within us...
- often without any of us understanding that this is what
causes our ...
2 Comments,
393 Views,
14 Votes
,5.06 Score
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Friend wants bi...... 5/17/2005
I know this 24 year old girl who has some very strong bi-sexual
pull. She luvs to masterbate watching girls go down on each
other. Needs guidance but motivated. I would like to surprise
her as a gift. I am not involved with her (5 yrs ago)- so you
believe me when I would listen to her talk about girls and
going down fantasies. I have some vid of her getting off
to femonfem porn--HOT! ...
2 Comments,
219 Views,
6 Votes
,3.37 Score
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Exploring a bi relationship 5/7/2005
How does one who has been straight all of their life, initiate
a bi relationship? It seems like all of the stuff that you
learn with guys goes out the window with woman. Perhaps
i am too nieve, it is so new, and almost scary to me. Does anyone
have any hints on how a woman can connect with another woman?
5 Comments,
264 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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I'm not an expert ... 5/3/2005
I don't really have a good track record ... it seems
I trust those whom I shouldn't trust. I am very dominant,
but I'm also sensitive and romantic. I have few limits
sexually, but the ones I do have are very hard limits. One
is trust. And in expecting trustworthiness, I also give
it. I didn't come to BDSM, M/s, and D/s to see how many
women I can conquer. One woman ... the right woman ...
0 Comments,
316 Views,
13 Votes
,5.66 Score
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Baby Do you have A Hard Limit? 5/1/2005
Ok Ok, so it's a bad start to an important subject but
hey, I'm a lecturer and a Dom. What do you expect? lol
<br>
Seriously though, you need to have thought out a "Hard
Limit" list, i.e. a list of things that you simply
do not wish to participate in. It's not all that difficult
to write, and for your own sake and the sake of your Dom/me
you should have it. Remember - anything ...
1 Comments,
370 Views,
13 Votes
,4.82 Score
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How to explain subspace to another? 4/30/2005
In the begining the concept of subspace bewildered me,
indeed verbally defining the concept was near impossible.
It was almost like some secret club, everyone but me "got
it". Books talked of it, but were vague in ways that
books for a thirteen year old are when talking about kissing.
People spoke of it as if they were all speaking of going someplace
that all subs get to go... a sub heaven ...
3 Comments,
911 Views,
54 Votes
,6.74 Score
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The Prime Directive 4/13/2005
In my trainings, I was given several unshakable rules.
The first was the “Prime Directiveâ€. (Yes, I suppose it
is an amusing co-incidence that it is a phrase akin to the
Starfleet core value, but as we know, so many perverts are
geeks…!)
<br>
The prime directive in my D/s relationships is this:
<br>
“The (submissive / slave) has the duty to protect the (dominant ...
3 Comments,
2855 Views,
201 Votes
,6.81 Score
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race is an issue 3/29/2005
I am a young white woman who recently started seeing a black
man and I am shocked by the reactions I have gotten from some
people. He treats me very well and I enjoy being with him
so why do some of my "friends" have a problem
with him? I have heard enough nigger jokes in the last couple
weeks to make me puke, and often they are from people who
claim not to be racist. I know some people ...
2 Comments,
130 Views,
28 Votes
,6.73 Score
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Can I ever trust again? 3/29/2005
It has been a year since I came out of a very distructive relationship.
I'd like to think that it was just a normal break up.
But the plot was to wild for a movie. Of course I didn't
know any of his diabolical activities till some time after
the relationship had ended...Now I find I can"t trust
anyone. I know deep down that they probably are being judged
unfairly, but the fears are there ...
0 Comments,
41 Views,
20 Votes
,6.57 Score
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Thank You Alt.com, For The Love Of My Life!! 3/25/2005
Greetings, My name is Ginger And I am 20 years old. For the
last two years I have been waiting with fingers crossed
for "Mr. Right." Well on the night of May 23rd
2004 I got a loving letter from a strange man. The title,
"You could have it all, My Empire of Dirt." Being
a strong fan of Music by Nine Inch Nails this gave me pause.
I opened the letter and It was from a man I would learn to ...
1 Comments,
411 Views,
11 Votes
,3.35 Score
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What about smokers? 3/17/2005
Why is it that the everyday smoker does not have his/her
option of discretely acknowledging that they have a hidden
pleasure that is a lifestyle in it self? I have not heard
a valid reason why it should not be considered a lifestyle
choice and given the ability to know whether or not someone
will match them more completely. Is there any hope of change?......
0 Comments,
374 Views,
10 Votes
,1.19 Score
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does it work.. of course 3/14/2005
Jim (Dominant, melj)
Wow
It is the first time i have looked at the Mag section and I
was shocked...
<br>
I can see so many lost soul's who for whatever reason
seem to be in a pickle... negativity and lots of it...
<br>
RELATIONSHIPS
There are many types of relationships in the alternative
scene, none are wrong or right they are only what we need,
if you want ...
3 Comments,
231 Views,
9 Votes
,4.71 Score
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Being in love and having slaves 3/14/2005
Is it possible for this to be mutually exclusive?
<br>
<br>
I have a very dominant side, but I don't tend to express
is to partners, as I feel it is seperate from the relationship.
I'm happy with it being this way.
<br>
<br>
Is it really possible to have the Mistress/Slave relationship
intertwined and in a 'normal' partnership, and
is it necessary, in ...
5 Comments,
444 Views,
13 Votes
,5.32 Score
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Need a woman.s advice 2/27/2005
First,
Do women like men who are hairy or shaved?
During the seventies and early eighties, it was "macho"
if you were hairy, now I hear women say they like a man who
is smooth. I see this often when gay guys are looking, but
what about women? I was hairy (being Italian), but I have
since shaved smooth, except the hair on my head)(the big
one).Second, does size matter? I hear conflicting ...
5 Comments,
253 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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question 2/26/2005
is it alright not to want any thing like for example i was
laying in bed naked and my gf( at the time ) came over got naked
to but we didnt do any thing i mean i didnt mind cause i have
always thought as long as i get time with her im happy well
im not so sure now she said thats what she wanted and stuff
and she liked doing that well i found out that she started
to get it some where else so ...
0 Comments,
134 Views,
2 Votes
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Poly relationships 2/18/2005
Do poly relationships EVER work? Is there a formula to make
it work? Or is it something that others can grow into? Are
certain people cut out for poly lifestyles?
4 Comments,
316 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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In The Beginning 1/29/2005
Many people have 2 lives. In the real world, they may be straight
ordinary people and go about their straight ordinary day.
Maybe even I am one of those people. who knows.
<br>
In here, we can be want we want to be. When we meet others,
they only know the us that is here in this online family.
<br>
So when and how would one incorporate the two lives without
disrupting ...
3 Comments,
276 Views,
28 Votes
,2.01 Score
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Introducing the "Lifestyle" 1/17/2005
How does one go and introduce the "lifestyle"
to a new partner? W/o scaring them off. Or does "planting
a seed work within reason.?
5 Comments,
268 Views,
17 Votes
,2.70 Score
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Question 1/14/2005
Ok, I met these girls who were working at a bondage booth
at this local sex toy convention thing, and I asked one out.
She said she'd like to go for drinks after the convention,
and even said "sure we'll go for drinks"
after I asked her later on that night "so you were jokin'
about the drinks right?". Problem is, we had to go
(the guys) towards the end of the show and she disappeared,
so ...
6 Comments,
150 Views,
14 Votes
,2.50 Score
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To Be Or Not To Be 1/12/2005
While I am fairly new to this lifestyle and to this site,
I have been approached by numerous Doms who write they can
"train me in one night."
I find this hard to believe, but then there may be some supermen
out there just waiting to train this submissive to be all
she can be.
I have a tendency to believe (and want) a more stable relationship,
starting off with a friendship, chatting, ...
3 Comments,
95 Views,
32 Votes
,8.21 Score
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Finding a Dom or Sub 1/5/2005
A place where you can have fun and possibly find what you
are looking for, is at the New York Renisance Faire.There
is the dramatic and romantic side to be satisfied here,
as well as a hugh collection of people in leather and spandex,
as well as women laced up in corsets.
I am sure amongst some of those in costume are those living
in the "alternate" lifestyle.
If you have never been ...
1 Comments,
131 Views,
7 Votes
,2.02 Score
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Hardest Relationship of all?? 12/30/2004
I am wondering if the crossdressing lifestyle is one of
the hardest of relationships to begin?? I know there are
women out there who have special interests in the TG an crossdressing
lifestyle, but it seems for the avgerage Transgender
and/or Crossdresser, its difficult to meet such a woman...
Alt.com is one of the few sites that I know of, that offer
a chance to meet someone but yet it ...
1 Comments,
158 Views,
15 Votes
,3.59 Score
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new to this 12/30/2004
Does anyone know where I can find out information or help
on being a good Domme?
3 Comments,
65 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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Begining...need advice 12/30/2004
I have been living with a man for almost 2 months now and care
for him very much. I am quite submissive by nature and I am
starting to see that he is a natural Dom type. We have great
sex, stimulating conversation, and generally get along
well with each other. My problem is that i do not know how
to start a discussion about the Dominant and submissive
rolls we are each already playing ...
9 Comments,
268 Views,
30 Votes
,4.02 Score
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Novice Dom 12/21/2004
So you're a novice Dom? Congratulations and welcome
aboard! It is always nice to greet a fellow Dom. But before
you get out them whips and start addressing every sub by
"On your knees slut!" there are a few things
I'd like to say. You may be nervous or scared. I know
it took me a couple of years before I gathered up my courage
and joined the local scene. I'd had fantasies of tying
up and ...
2 Comments,
1061 Views,
113 Votes
,8.48 Score
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What is the role of symbolism? 12/14/2004
Talk about leashes, collars and other BDSM "accessories"
has got me thinking...
<br>
The very first time I was exposed to this concept was late
into the relationship with my first dom. I started with
an off hand comment that wearing shirt collars or necklaces
always makes me very aware of my neck. He very much liked
what he called my adventurous spirit and fiestiness. He ...
1 Comments,
188 Views,
19 Votes
,3.52 Score
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"Power Corrupts" but what about the Power Exchange? 12/13/2004
The idea that power corrupts, does it apply in D/s?
<br>
The first thing that comes to my mind is that it shouldn't
be applicable in a D/s environment. While the quote (i believe)
refers to general power, it's usually applied in political
fields. So i was tempted to just deny it out of hand.
<br>
But that doesn't really make sense. After all, power
is power, in ...
2 Comments,
129 Views,
18 Votes
,3.81 Score
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"THE OTHER SIDE" 12/10/2004
To start with, I am going to tackle some thoughts on the various
components of BDSM. I won't talk much about the acronym,
but do want to discuss what they are and how they relate to
each other. This may seem like beginner stuff, but you'd
be surprised at how many long time scene players don't
really understand how it all fits together - this can and
does lead to some skewed expectations.
...
1 Comments,
65 Views,
36 Votes
,8.07 Score
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David, Will You Hurry Up And Please Me? 12/7/2004
He was just as needy as I and things seemed okay because we
had stayed in touch and at least we had an understanding.
Trust was there, on both side, to do the right thing. That
is what is so magnificent about him, his sense of right and
wrong plus a sensitive side, and the pure strength of his
convictions. I enjoyed him sharing his sensitivity, which
I am sure he sees as a weakness. On the ...
0 Comments,
258 Views,
44 Votes
,8.06 Score
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Relationships without sex? 12/2/2004
HI there. I saw a lot of people, who looking for special kind
of oral sex, bondage sex, anal sex and and and.
Is it possible, to built a relationship without all that
physical things. I mean sex could be nice, but is it all?
1 Comments,
32 Views,
19 Votes
,5.50 Score
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Bisexual wifes how many husbands have no problem with it. 12/2/2004
I have no problem with my wife being bi-sexual but I have noticed at swingers parties and even in some couples me and the wife I have met. So husbands and boyfriends have a real problem couping with the fact there wife is indeed bi-sexual. I have no problem with the fact as I knew from the day we started dateing she was bi-sexual and it was part of her I accepted.
2 Comments,
91 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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love letter to my girlfriend 12/2/2004
Copy love letter to bambi Baby ive missed you so much ! its
been so long since ive held you in my arms, I m looking forward
to hold to you again, ,I remember our first kiss so soft
and sensous and after I kissed your mouth was still opan
ready for more so I kissed you again and you made sweet sound, so
I tongue kissed you but you weren’t ready for that , just
sweet sensous kiss, ,, mm it ...
1 Comments,
82 Views,
9 Votes
,3.21 Score
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wen love play 12/2/2004
and want to hear from thers who didg this
1 Comments,
138 Views,
22 Votes
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Collaring 12/2/2004
I have a question for doms or masters regarding collaring.
What is the average amount of time it takes including training
and consideration that is used for a master or dom to collar
a sub?
<br>
Are there any specific levels of collaring? I am just curious.
4 Comments,
241 Views,
26 Votes
,4.21 Score
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New to this lifestyle need help in becoming a good slave. 10/30/2004
I have been with my Master for 6 months now, I love him to death. I am not yet the person slave I now i could be to him. I am looking to be his best and closes slave that he has, But i have a problem I can't yet give my whole self over to My master, I guess you would say that i am hardhead in some ways but i am in need of some advices from you. How should I correct the problem?
Worried ...
1 Comments,
50 Views,
2 Votes
,1.04 Score
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new to this lifestyle 10/30/2004
I was wondering if anyone did training on the web first with
their dom. How did it work out this dom I am working with seems
a nice guy, and says we will meet in about a month. We talk
on the phone and we talk by web too. It is hard for me to be totally
submissive to him without challenging him because know
there are no consequences yet for it. Do really want to do
this, have discovered ...
1 Comments,
96 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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Any ideas? 10/29/2004
I recently met a vanilla girl but I soon realised that she
was naturally very submissive. I have introduced the idea
of BDSM & D/s to her & shes quite into it. My question
is; does anyone have any ideas for how I should take things
further?
1 Comments,
62 Views,
8 Votes
,3.01 Score
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What a lucky guy I was 10/27/2004
I have been in a long term relationship and regretfully my partner died on June 2nd 2002. I met him when I was 15 and he was 40 and we had the most wonderful life together in a totally monogamous relationship for 40 years. When I was 20 I came to live with him and we had lived together in true harmony and love for those 35 years. We did not have much to do with the gay scene and we hated gay bars ...
1 Comments,
81 Views,
7 Votes
,5.33 Score
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Oh, Just Spank me Already! 10/25/2004
I'm a frustrated subby just getting involved in the lifestyle and find, like many of us, when I'm really stressed or upset, I NEED a good spanking! So Why is so hard to get my partner (a stated dom) to understand this? I explained, it's a great stress reducer for BOTH of us, he won't harm me if he stays focused on the sit spot and uses his hand or "gentle" implements, it allows me to release my ...
3 Comments,
107 Views,
13 Votes
,3.81 Score
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