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Subbing Without Substance
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Posted:Feb 3, 2023 6:34 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 1:27 am 1098 Views
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The more i get contacted on this site the more times dominants or submissives ask about playing right out of the box. Without even having a basic understanding o me and what makes me tick, they are ready to play.
I guess some people are wired in such as way as to be able to get into a D/s role without the cerebral manifestations that make it so vital for me. I have always considered my submission to be 90% mental and 10% physical. This is not to be misconstrued as what takes place during the course of me being used for someone's pleasure. What it means is that for me to really embrace the role of the compliant submissive, I must be invested into my partner on a cerebral level.
A real Domme understands the power of mental gymnastics and how so many subs thrive on having their thoughts manipulated and molded by their superiors. All of my best and longest lasting relationships were always dependent on the mental state my Dominant would perpetually keep me in. The teasing, the denial, the creativity that kept me continually on edge. These were traits of my Dommes that turned me into their compliant play thing. So by the time it was ready to play, my mind and thoughts were so consumed with bringing pleasure to my Dominant that it was a foregone conclusion that any male ego that once might have existed within me was non-existent and that reaching sub-space came quickly and powerfully.
Now I realize we live in a "immediate gratification" era when no one wants to exhibit any facsimile of patience and think that "getting off" as soon as possible in the way to go. I can only say that I vehemently disagree with this and can only comment on my own feelings regarding the subject. I have been trained in such a way as to thrive on the hypothesis that pleasuring and pleasing another, no matter how long she or he wishes, is the road to submissive nirvana. Thinking of my own orgasms are minimalized through this process and I can honestly say that I would much rather be the person giving the orgasms to another than having one of my own.
So try to show a little patience. Get to know someone before agreeing to play. Think of the brain as the most important organ you have when it comes to the BDSM lifestyle.
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Any Real Dommes?
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Posted:Oct 11, 2019 4:31 pm
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2024 4:05 pm 1559 Views
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It continues to perplex and amaze me the amount owners of profiles I come across that label themselves "Domme", or "Mistress", or " Goddess" , and then, much to my chagrin expose themselves..breasts, ass, pussy for all submissives to see.
Is it totally lost on these supposed Dominants that such an exposure is reserved for deserving subs who are given such an honor. I have never met a Domme worth Her weight who shows Herself to the masses in such a way. And believe me, i am no prude. What i am is an experienced submissive who knows the difference between a wannabee and a true Dominant Lady. I have had so many Women who want to meet and play immediately, not even knowing my thoughts on a D/s scenario. I mean, what gives?
I am a firm believer that the attempts to make BDSM mainstream ( the grey movies and books, etc...) has terribly minimized the number of persons who have taken the time to understand what submission and dominance entails. This seems to have become a fuck fest for so many. And so many uninitiated have bastardized the meaning of BDSM and sent it to places that are very unseemly and dark.
I can only imagine the same is held true for female subs and male Doms. No one is willing to put in the necessary time and effort to fully connect with a prospective partner prior to getting their rocks off!
Let me hear from you out there. Am i overreacting?
Looking forward to your thoughts and opinions.
servensurrender
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What's with "seek"?
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Posted:Aug 10, 2019 6:27 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2019 6:46 pm 1247 Views
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So why do all the scammers ask..."What do you seek"?
I am firmly convinced that they all go to the same scamming school...LOL
There is some little cabin in Eastern Europe where out of work scammers go to learn how to take advantage of unsuspecting, ignorant people.
So listen up there all of you brain surgeons and nuclear scientists...when some douche bag ask "what do you seek"?
TELL THEM TO FUCK OFF!
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DEAR DOMMES, To cum or not to cum
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Posted:Mar 14, 2018 5:28 am
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2024 4:05 pm 1940 Views
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I had a conversation with a Dominant Lady friend of mine last night and we were discussing the male submissive and the effects of cumming during a scene.
Now despite what one may read in the erotic literature section, the reality of the situation is that there is a definite reaction stemming from allowing the male submissive to orgasm during the time he is serving his Domme.
There are a couple of different theories about allowing a slav to come to fruition.
The first, is Not to allow any orgasms whatsoever. This is probably the most common practice, which may incorporate chastity devices or the fear of punishment for the act. I personally subscribe to this choice. For me, my sub-state is greatly enhanced by the need to cum and the arousal that accompanies that. Any Domme will tell you that a chastised submissive is a compliant submissive. When my limits have been stretched and I have pleased my Domme in ways that I would have thought to be unobtainable, it has always been while I have been craving relief.
The second option is to allow the submissive to cum. This can be allowed for good behavior or with the understanding that orgasms have consequences. Having the male submissive eat all of his ejaculate is a common form of response to an orgasm. Other Dommes that I have talked too like to keep their subs retrained and have them cum for them. Now the sweet torture that ensues stems form the immediate change in attitude of a slave after cumming, a sudden lack or minimizing of the desire to serve and please. Any male understands the feeling. I don't care how well trained one might be, the physical and mental changes are unavoidable. So a clever Domme can capitalize on this and force the sub to accept the continuation of pleasing his Domme immediately after the deed is done. I have experienced this also, and it does make a submissive understand that whether sexually satisfied or not, his Domme expects Her slut to always follow Her lead and abide by Her wishes.
So which do you prefer?
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