Trixy's Thoughts

This is a place for me to express random thoughts and ideas as they strike me.
If someone enjoys, learns from or is moved by them, that is a lovely bonus for me.

Not too kinky?
Posted:Jun 28, 2017 9:42 am
Last Updated:Jun 28, 2017 12:15 pm

I had someone tell me today "I'm probably way more kinky than you." It's funny that my first reaction was "yeah, right!" I believe that I am probably moderately kinky in reality. But then, when I talk to some people I wonder. I mean, there are a lot of things that I'm into that I don't feel like are kinky at all, they are totally normal to me.

So, how do you define "kinky"?. Is it based on the number of kinks/fetishes you have? Is it based on some mysterious scale of which kinks are kinkier than others?

What kind of scale is there to distinguish level of kinkiness?

And why do I care if someone questions my level of kinkiness?
Why so grumpy? Not getting any?
Posted:Jun 28, 2017 8:13 am
Last Updated:Jun 28, 2017 12:17 pm

I don't understand all the hostility regarding polyamory. I don't go around telling monogamous people how to live their life.

Me wanting more than one partner is not a personal slight against you, mister stranger I've never talked to before.


You do your thing and I'll do mine.

But please, stop getting so bent out of shape because I can love more than one person at a time.
Proper Apologies and other Personal Responsibility
Posted:Jun 25, 2017 5:36 pm
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2017 7:02 am

One of my biggest pet peeves is people that cannot take personal responsibility. Those that blame anyone but themselves for ... whatever.

The other one is crappy apologies. If your apology includes the word "but", it doesn't count. "I'm sorry, but..." The but negates anything that comes before it. Also, you don't get to apologize for what I think, believe, or feel. "I'm sorry you feel that way" is also not a valid apology.

Examples of proper apologies are..

I am sorry, I was wrong.
I apologize for my behavior.
I completely misunderstood. I am sorry for not paying attention.
I apologize. I will do better.
Kinky Dating Site Code Words
Posted:Jun 21, 2017 7:14 am
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2017 5:13 pm

"Happy home life" = Cheating on my spouse

"Foot worship" = foot fetish aka ignoring you as a person to focus on your feet.

"It's complicated" = Cheating on spouse

"Willing to perform oral service with no reciprocation" = small penis

Will add more as I think of them. Feel free to share yours!
What IS "Single"?
Posted:Jun 20, 2017 5:40 am
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2017 7:06 pm

Let's clear up something here. When I say that I am looking for someone single, people seem to be a little confused. So, let me lay it out for you.

Single in my mind means:

* Not married
* No girlfriend
* Not dating one particular person
* Not living with someone that you sometimes sleep with
* Not living with someone that you no longer sleep with but she still thinks you are "together"
* No other D/s relationship from either side of the slash
* Not fucking your "roommate"

Single. It's not that complicated.
Things I Don't Understand
Posted:Jun 15, 2017 10:32 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2017 1:55 pm

So, I'm hanging out on another site and I get to thinking... there are some common things I see on that site that I just don't get. I would probably see them here too if I looked at more profiles.

1. The massive number of gay men that look at my profile.

2. The men that brag about their paycheck and ability to spoil a lady that then get super pissy later in the profile or journals about gold diggers and fin doms. That's like setting out a buffet in your backyard and bitching about all the raccoons that show up.

3. The number of people that tell me how much they love my profile (when I can clearly see they have not viewed it) and the not so surprising number that immediately view my profile when I ask them for one things specific that they liked.

4. How many people like to use BRIGHT fucking YELLOW as a background color.

5. .. well I'm sure there are more but I can't think of them right now and it's my nap time.

**Edit to Add** 6. Guys that send one line messages that are statements about themselves as if it's going to make my panties fall off. (i.e. I want a mistress to fuck me. or even better "I seek firm mistres to sirve" -actual quote!)
Stroke It. Stroke It Good!
Posted:Jun 15, 2017 8:04 am
Last Updated:Jun 24, 2017 12:32 pm

My ego, that is. I just happened to notice that I'm a few comments shy for the month to get on the "most active blogs" list. Not that I've ever really aimed to be recognized here, but it seems like a fun challenge. So... comment anything here, regardless of topic. Just bump me of the limit to get my humble little blog seen by ALT folks for a day.
I Like Cock
Posted:Jun 14, 2017 5:35 am
Last Updated:Jun 15, 2017 5:11 am

I love penises. They are fun to play with. I like to stroke them, I like to hurt them, I like to ride them. I love cock.


If your ONLY fetishes are about your own cock, we are not going to be a good match. If you refuse to help around the house, you aren't into pain, you only submit when you want to and your fetish list is comprised of "masturbation, edging, "mild cbt", "cock milking" (aka someone else masturbating you), and blowjobs, then I am NOT the woman for you.

I love cock. On my terms. When I want to play with it, how I want to play with it. AND, here's the part that ends up disqualifying most of you, I have to really like the person it's attached to.
Not So Sweet and Fluffy
Posted:Jun 13, 2017 10:27 am
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2017 10:08 am

I swear, if one more person I don't know offers to "help" me with my physical fitness, I am going to go ballistic!

Sure, if I am in a relationship, I expect my partner to be supportive and encouraging. But these "potential" subs that make it clear they are not ok with my body before we even meet... Fuck off!

Because of my health, I am not as active as I used to be or would like to be. Encouragement and assistance in staying active is great. For my health. You taking it upon yourself to lecture me about fitness without asking ANY questions about health or reasons is condescending and douchey.

I will not even consider being with someone that thinks they can change me. That's not how this works.
Question for the Bloggers
Posted:Jun 12, 2017 9:42 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2017 7:00 am

I have noticed something interesting in my time blogging here. Some people blog a lot, some a little. Some respond to every comment, some never at all.

What kind of blogger are you?
I put my words of wisdom into the world and walk away (never respond to comments)
I respond to only certain comments that I feel compelled to (for whatever reason)
I respond to most polite comments
I respond only to negative comments because I want to defend my writing
I respond only to negative comments because I like confrontation
I respond to every comment no matter what the content
Other - please explain
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