rosaenaluin 65F
9923 posts
5/26/2018 1:44 am
What is the difference?


Between a Play dominant or someone who IS, real.

A play doms attention to you, as a person is very, very shallow.

He knows, somehow, he needs to pretend to be interested in you, as a person, to be able to get into your pants.
so he asks this, that and the other.

BUT, never really read your answer.

There never really develop a conversation.
They are not "into" you, as a person.

This "conversation" does not flow, he does not want to freely give most personal info you ask about...
He can get (very) verbally aggressive, passive-aggressive in his attemp to get the control over the conversation, wich is not even there...
It is a very big hassle to get some conversation going.

For him that is all just part of his role...
HIS.
This is not about you.
He has a plan in his head, he has a sort of time line, in witch he wants to know if he can score with you.
If you are able to fill his fantasy image of what A submissive should be/act...

If you dont play that game, the conversation can get very nasty, very early on.
they blame you,
YOU ARE NOT a real SUBMISSIVE.

Those men, are not able to provide you with the info you need, when you want to decide if he is safe,
or compatible with your needs, or fantasy role play or what ever...

When you question some of his info, he is very quick to (counter) attack you, on a personal level....
Those men are very bissy to try to control the whole 'conversation' in a compulsive obsessive manner, from the first contact on.

There is no 2way communication in wich you have to get along with what the other person gives.... provides you with..
that conversation that flows from one person to the other, were there is room to get into some topic and get back to a former conversation....
Just like two or more adult people do sometimes when they enjoy each other.
both people getting their own part of attention, energy.

They are actually only interested in if you get horny at the same things, actions as he does.
And, it is very sad to say, it is almost always about the same actions.

It is mostly about wanting to swallow his cum, curious about anal sex,
deep throating, sharing, or curious about an other woman in the game....

or that one word i cant write here, Grrr- ape fantasy......

IT IS ALL ABOUT PHYSICAL ACTIONS......
They want to use Your body for their fun,
To boost their Ego! it is all about Ego boosting.
Calling himself 'DOMINANT" just make him get a hard on, about himself...
how poor is that?

It has nothing to do with who you are, what makes you tick,
why you are, and why you need all that.....

To me, that is soo very boring... and also so very cheap, and very, very insulting.
I feel violated by those geezers. I know they dont know any better.. but still...
it hurts, to be treated like that.

Sure! i can dó all those thing.

The difference is, I only want to do those things with someone i have a connection on a emotional level with.
A relation with.
i only want to try all kind of new things, ( at least 3 times, to be sure) with someone who really cares about mé.
my safety, my growth, my emotional stability.

Who also will be there for me, when it is not all about his prick.
when it is about death in my family or sickness, or losing my job, or having fun, BBQ with each other, or.. you name it...

Not someone who just want to skull fuck anybody with a cunt.
(pardon me French)

Also, one other very, very important aspect of all this BDSM is,
In the end, it is the woman! WOMAN, (not sub, yet!)

who choices that person to become her dominant, vetting it is called on FET.
after she has been able to get to know him, know his background, his former relations, and how they ended, after she experienced his emotional stability, how he treats other people, to be sure, she will allways be safe,
they are compatible.

That that person understand her, will always guide her safety, safely.

You are starts of as equal to each other, untill the moment SHE decides you are the one she choices to submit to!

Play sex bedroom kinky porn dominants dont give a hoot about all this.
I even dare to say, they dont understand it, at all, and they dont like that.

they just want what they think is bdsm, but is actually kinky sex.

kinky sex does not equals BDSM nor being a dominant....

Be honest about your goals, what you want, dont lie.
If you dont know, be open about that too!

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Oh, an after thought, most play doms, dont want to get involved with you and your life, only when it has a bad effect on their play schedule.

Also, what they call a D/s is mostly a pure physical activity in a predominantly VANILLA relation, thats why it is called "bedroom dominance"/play dom,
it is strictly sexual/ role play, special clothes, special make up, special times,... what ever is their fancy.

play doms are a bit strange, some really want to show off in the outside world, HOW dominant they are.. (what ever that may mean?)
Or they are very afraid they meet someone from their "normal" vanilla life.
Their being kinky/ 'dominant' must stay a very big secret.

No body needs to know, you are vanilla in the outside world and as soon as the frontdoor is closed, you take on you role...

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rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/26/2018 1:48 am

For a lot of people on this site, is it just a pleasant way to pass some time....

being bored, having a lunch break on their own....
That they are on here, does not garantee any thing at all

Calling themself dominant is no garantee, always, always question that !!
It is your RIGHT as a submissive person, for your own safety.

and it is a test for that person at the same time.
good luck.


slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
5/26/2018 2:06 am


Slave rick


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/26/2018 2:51 am

Hi, slaveforyou365,

Youre Welcome, thank you,


Attila_the_Pun 66M

5/26/2018 7:20 am

So called Doms getting verbally aggressive and even very rude is sadly quite common when their game plan does not run to the expected pattern. I have heard this time and time again from the submissive women I have spoken to. Sadly submissive women are some how seen as weak, in the eyes of these pathetic men and therefore they think 'easy target' for the quick fix they want. How wrong can they be?


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/26/2018 7:58 am

taximan,
thank you Sir,


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/26/2018 7:59 am

angie0706, i might start a blog??? maybe....?


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/26/2018 8:05 am

Atila_the-Pun,

That is what vanillas or kinksters think, yes,

submissives equal weak, without a back bone, a working brain.
like bdsm equals kinky sex to them.

The fact about that is, totally the contrary.


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
5/31/2018 4:34 am

Thank you, polycouplewa,

What an impressive story... how intense and lovely too.
Thank you!

Yes, indeed, His Primary focus should be on this woman, sub, slave and himselfs second...

You have to invest, so she wants to submit to you, out of her free will.
Because she has reasons to trust you.

not some bucket list ,"role play "trust".....

most on here... To sad for words....

Thank you so much for your lovely story,



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